Cool, Calm, and Confident

Cool, Calm, and Confident

A Workbook to Help Kids Learn Assertiveness Skills

Internationally Recognized as a Leading Resource for Teaching Assertiveness!

*Help Your Child Stop Being Bullied and Stop the Need to Bully!

This should be in EVERY school in AMERICA!  This book is absolutely WONDERFUL!! This should be a part of any school curriculum.”

“Great workbook.  I’m a youth counselor and I love this workbook! Great for the kids I work with! It had good lessons, as well as fun worksheets that go along with the lessons. Great asset to a counselor!”

Great book for teaching confidence!!  My son has to do required reading for school each night for 20 minutes. I chose to use these workbooks for that required reading time and I’ve finally found something that is INTERESTING for my son to read (age 9). He likes reading the little 1-page stories in this book about kids who are ‘like him’ and he’s able to relate to these kids easily. He enjoys brainstorming how the characters in the story can solve their own problems, which he will indeed apply to his own life. The activities after the story reinforce the skills. He’s taken away many pearls of wisdom already from these activities and is in a GREAT mood after we’ve completed our activities. We’ve had so many conversations open up that have led to great discussions.”

“Amazing book!  This workbook provides activities for children to practice positive thinking and assertiveness as well as help them learn to see the positive qualities about themselves. I am currently working on this with my 5 year-old. It can definitely work for all ages though. I highly recommend this book!”

“I wish I had this as a child.  Not only are my kids learning a lot with this book, but my husband, my mother and I are as well.  We do one exercise every day at dinner.  Lisa, you have changed our lives!

*According to, at least one in four or as many as one in three students have been bullied.* 

Self-assured, assertive kids are not only less likely to be picked on by their peers, they’re also less likely to bully others. The 40 assertiveness worksheets in Cool, Calm, and Confident are also “anti-bullying” worksheets.  They help children learn behaviors that discourage teasing, understand their rights and how to stand up for themselves, stay calm and deal with teasing, learn anger management skills, and develop self-confidence and a positive self-image.

If your child is a frequent target for bullies, or has begun to tease and take advantage of other kids, Cool, Calm, and Confident can help.  The assertiveness activities build healthy self-esteem through knowing, accepting, and valuing oneself; learning goal-setting, perseverance, feelings management, social skills, problem-solving, and more.  Children learn how to use assertiveness skills with individuals, groups, peers and adults.

Cool, Calm, and Confident helps to stop the bullying cycle by teaching both aggressive children and passive children better ways to communicate and gives them the confidence to follow through.

I love this book.  I use this book every day with my clients. A great tool.  My clients love the activities and I love the activities too.”

“It warmed my heart to hear my daughter telling how she uses the skills she has learned from reading this book. It has made a real difference in my daughter’s life and the way she reacts to things.”

Great for kids!  I work with kids in crisis who have been assessed for suicide risk within the last 90 days. This book is very helpful when teaching them coping skills. The book also covers many different areas that kids need to address, such as communication skills, self-esteem, managing feelings, managing anger, social skills, etc.”

A great workbook for children to learn how to express themselves and how to think through their choices when they find themselves in difficult situations. Teaches the child that their feelings are never wrong, but the way they chose to handle their feelings can make a big difference in not only how they feel and behave, but in how others behave, react to, and treat them, too. De-stressing techniques and confidence building exercises. An outstanding guide for children old enough to enjoy writing, or for children who don’t mind writing and are struggling to adequately identify /express true feelings, choices, behaviors, reactions, and potential outcomes.”

Practical and kids love it!  I am an elementary school counselor, and I like to print out copies of pages from the book, trim them down, and staple them together, making mini workbooks for my students and I like to discuss and complete during individual counseling sessions. The kids love having something tangible to work on, and it facilitates discussion easily. If you make the little booklets I do, it’s also something for the kids to take with them after meeting. I love the practicality of the pre-made lessons”

“Good examples, helpful book!  Have given this to 3 kiddos so far, and their parents are learning as well!

Five stars.  “Great book! So glad I ordered this. I have even recommended it to others.”

Talk to Lisa about speaking to your school, group or organization on these assertiveness and self-esteem topics for children, or ask about revising any topic to best suit your needs:

For Professionals

  • Creating Healthy Self-Esteem:  6 Central Principles for Clients to Embrace

For Parents

  • Help Your Child/Teen Create Healthy Self-Esteem:  6 Principles to Model and Teach

For Adults

  • Healthy Self-Esteem:  6 Principles for Creating the Confidence You’ve Always Wanted

For Teens/Young Adults

  • Healthy Self-Esteem:  Why You Need It, How You Can Get It

For Children

  • Cool, Calm & Confident:  Learning Assertiveness & Feeling Good About Me
More Assertiveness/Self-Esteem Resources from Lisa Schab
The Self-Esteem Workbook for Teens

This internationally best-selling workbook has been named in Tutorful’s Best Child Self-Esteem Boosters/Resources 2018.  40 self-esteem worksheets help teens understand how their self-esteem developed and then teach the cognitive, emotional, and social skills that empower them to shift it from unhealthy to healthy.

Self-Esteem for Teens

In a 6×8 backpack-size format, Lisa Schab lays out 6 core life principles that feed Healthy Self-Esteem, and compliments them with 6 Wisdom Tales and optional exercises for putting it all into practice.

The Self-Esteem Habit for Teens

This pocket-size volume offers 50 practical Positive Thought and Positive Action techniques for building healthy self-esteem in a 3-step Perceive It-Believe It-Achieve It format.  Teens can flip through and try the tip that feels right for them each day.

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